Coping with death of loved ones

Dear Ning,

I must be the one who prompted you to write the recent blog. Yes, I fully agree with what you said about missing that person more as you could not find another who could replaced him, and who could treat you the way he treated you.

But let me share with you another true story, now that as I read your blog, it rekindles my memory. Its actually just a simple story, but somehow the moral of the story is not to love somebody too much, and not to be too 'attached' to another person. Because if that person suddenly leave you much earlier than expected one day, its really hard for you wound to be healed and to fully recover. However, there's always two sides to a coin, it really depends on how you view life and the whole situation.

Few years ago, my ex colleague saw one of her friend and her current husband on the street. She told me that this friend has remarried and this is her 2nd husband. Her 1st husband, whom she love with all her heart and soul, passed away very suddenly one day. She was heart broken of course. But a few years later, because of her kids and many other practical reasons, she remarry again. She gets along well with this current husband and life goes on as usual, but her heart is no longer with her anymore, and she could not love like before anymore. I believe there is still love in her, but its the fragmented remains of her residual love.......

I don't know what is the shape and situation of your heart right now. But I believe you will be able to find another 'big brother' and even 'future husband' who will treat you the way J treated you. You are still young and there are still many opportunities to meet new people. Let J lives forever in your heart, and don't feel resentful towards those around you. I know its always those closest to you, and those around you who disappoint you the most. Maybe they are 'too close for comfort'. Hahaha. Maybe one day, distant will make all of you appreciate each other more....
Its just like the 'physical distance' between us now have however draw our hearts and mind closer through the blog n msn...........Hee...........;)